Your Sexuality Is Not Love

I am finding news posts littering the internet claiming that homosexuality is not a choice. The claims state that many factors (from what I briefly read, external) contribute to a person's sexuality before they hit puberty.

This is disturbing on so many levels. To say that external factors can influence a person's sexual preference suggests that we can program all humans to behave in specific categories. If you want your child to be heterosexual then you will strive to have specific influences be much stronger. Say, corporal punishment to change the child's behavior. That may be an extreme example of a process but it is one that many people are very familiar with.

So what happens to the unconditional love that we, as a society, profess? What happens when the love we said we give and take with our life partners are really just a bunch of factors and chemical influences? What happens to our choices when we can boil it down to initial conditions? What happens when our freedom to choose who we love is no longer a freedom?

If homosexuality is not a choice, then heterosexuality is not a choice. The homosexual men and women who are raising children may raise a child heterosexual or homosexual or some other type on the spectrum. (I'm finding more articles describing more sexual orientations than I am currently capable of fully understanding.) What happens then?

I find that many people on either side of the debate equate social preferences with sexual orientation. A person can come to terms with their sexual orientation if they understand that orientation does not mean they not love and are less committed to their different-orientation partner. If any person says that love and orientation are intertwined they that person does not believe there is any choice in the world.

I will paraphrase what I have said before to clarify this subject: sexuality is not Love. Forget that and you forget why we are human.